Being a good parent isn’t easy — but you’re determined to give it your all. Since you’re going through a divorce, you naturally want to plan ahead and anticipate as many conflicts as possible that you may have with your co-parent over the kids.
Here are some of the uniquely modern potential problems that you probably need to discuss sooner, rather than later:
- What vaccinations will your child receive? The “anti-vaxx” movement is strong in the United States and there’s no guarantee that you and your ex-spouse will continue to see eye-to-eye on this issue.
- What religious instruction will your child receive? After a divorce, formerly agnostic or irreligious parents sometimes find a new faith (or return to an old one) while they’re seeking comfort or meaning. They may want to bring your child along with them.
- What changes to a child’s appearance are okay? If your child wants to dye their hair bright blue, for example, you need to know if you and your ex-spouse need to both agree to the changes.
- What happens if gender identity becomes an issue? There’s a growing body of people who identify as transgender, gender-queer, genderfluid or non-binary in some way. If your child “comes out” while still a minor how do you want the issue handled?
- How are electronics handled? This can be a big source of conflicts, especially if one parent wants to “cut the cords” and one thinks it’s important for kids to become comfortable with computers and other electronics.
- What about school? Parents are increasingly worried about their children’s safety in the public school system. Should your child be moved to homeschool? Can they use an online school? Is a private school an option?
Most modern parents have to navigate these concerns — but the process gets complicated when the parents are divorced. If you’re struggling to make a solid parenting plan, turn to an attorney for some help.