People sometimes hold the idea that a marriage, if it does not last for a lifetime, is a failure. They look at any divorce as an indicator that the marriage failed and that, by extension, those in the marriage also failed.
However, psychologists are pushing back against this idea. They point out that ending a marriage does not mean that the marriage didn’t serve its purpose when the couple was still together. It did. But that doesn’t mean that they’re going to have the same needs or even really be the same people for their entire lives.
When they decide to move on, does that mean they’ve failed? The argument that psychologists make is that it does not. It just means they understand that the marriage has run its course. They want to get something else out of life or move in a new direction. This implies the opposite argument: That staying in the marriage against your own will could actually be seen as a type of failure.
They also point out that many people live in unhappy marriages. They say that this is something that no one deserves and that people shouldn’t cling to these marriages just because they think it’s their lot in life to be unhappy and stay married.
Some people agree with these new ideas about marriage and divorce, and others do not. Either way, divorce is a reality that can happen regardless of how people view it. If you find yourself on the brink of ending your marriage to your spouse, be sure you know what rights you have.